"Take some time for you" pt. 1

My life is filled with day time T.V. and puppy pee breaks. As I was getting ready the other morning I had a show on in the back ground.

I'm doing this post in 2 or 3 segments. This is for your benefit, because it will probably end up being a REALLY long post if I don't break it up.

If you watch day time T.V. these days it's all about making people over. They usually have a mom who no longer feels beautiful and they make her over.

This episode it was a mom who was too busy taking care of her children to really take care of herself. At the end of the segment the host of the show says "Just remember it's all about taking time for you".

I chewed that over for a while. Pretty much all day until youth group time.

"Take some time for you".

I believe in taking personal time to relax and regroup.

Taking care of other people can be burdensome. Serving people gets tiring. I know this, but I also know that I don't know it like a mother does. Right now it's just Brian and I and washing dishing and doing laundry can get old fast. Even though I get tired, I'm not foolish enough to think my life is harder than someone with children.

However, the context in which; "Just remember it's all about taking time for you" was said, I believe is selfish. Before you get mad and close the window hear me out.

This is what the person meant when she said "Take time for you"

"Take time for you; and take a shower"
"Take time for you; and by new heals"
"Take time for you; and do your hair"
"Take time for you; and rest"
"Take time for you; and take a nap"
"Don't do that for your kids, relax; take time for you"

Now. All of those things are good and important. We do need rest. We do sometimes need a shower. We do need to take time away and relax. Not getting burnt out is important. However, If it's not done properly it will just create bitterness and wont actually produce rest.

Maybe you agree, maybe you don't, maybe you think i'm a fool. Thats ok. I challenge you to think about it. And come back tomorrow when I write more on it.


Bitterness: It's really easy for me to get bitter at Brian for not doing the dishes, or not taking out the trash. Or helping me around the house. (not so much now because I don't work. but when i was working).  I wanted HIM to serve ME. Because, who doesn't want to be served.

²² Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. ²³ For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. ²⁴ Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. 

Probably, one of the most incorrectly quoted passages in scripture. And even thought it's said at most Christian weddings I'd say 10% actually understand what it means or even agree with it. 

Verse 24: Says that wives need to submit to their husbands and the church submits to Christ. 

Submit: To accept or yield to a superior for or stronger

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An Excellent Wife, who can find?

Hey Everyone, Sorry there was no weekend roll out. Currently, I am sick and I want to die. However Brian and I did get to spend time with his family. Some much needed colligan family time.

ANYWAY

I am a very blessed girl. My engagement right is BEAUTIFUL. It is the exact type of ring I've always wanted...

Our culture has made weddings into a Billion Dollar Industry. Girls care more about the look of their wedding then they do anything else. We have theknot davidsbridal brides.com etsy. You can have two wedding dresses, you can have two cakes. You can have a wedding registry at target, khols, and bed bath and beyond. You can have you own personal website. You get engagement photos taken. You send out save the dates. You have to make sure those who come to your reception do not sit next to people they dont get a long with.

There is so much excitement and stress that go into preparing for a wedding. But why is it that we "prepare for weddings"? Shouldn'twe be training up our "brides to be" to be wives, not brides?

Think about it. I see SO many photos on facebook that girls post of their 'dream wedding'. We want this dress, this ring, this cake, these flowers and the list infinitely goes on. How many girls do you see studying the word of God to find out with HE says about marriage.

I did not realize the importance of this until a few months before the wedding. (If you know brian and I you're probably laughing because our engagement was just a couple months.)

The Bible doesn't say how to arrange the flowers for center pieces, it gives no advice on hair styles. It also does not say "Thou shall marry Brian on July 24". ( I don't believe in soul mates or "one person" but thats not important here)

Those of you who are married, we need to speak up! While yes, a wedding should be fun and exciting - If you are putting more thought into bouquets than you are your duties as a wife, than something is wrong.

We see Proverbs 30:31 plastered on every christian coffee mug. However, we totally end up missing the rest of the proverb. A mother is telling her son exactly what to look for in a woman. I could go into it, but this post would never get done. Maybe I'll save it for next time.

The Bible has this "cuss" word in it "Submission" 1 Peter 3. We as women ( or at least I do) tend to think of that word with negative connotations. However, I believe (just my false doctrine feel free to test this) that it's not JUST obedience it's obedience WITHOUT an ATTITUDE! !!

My friends, if you know somebody who is getting married soon, or plans to ever in their life. Encourage them. Encourage them to pick up the Bible and read through Scripture. If you are married, you know that marriage is hard, and is rough and you know that (maybe this was just me) you felt a little over whelmed at first.

Tell them to prepare their heart for marriage. Tell them to guard their hearts from the lies and misconceptions of marriage.

I was blessed to have the wedding of my dreams.

I was also blessed by the fact that I started praying for my MARRIAGE.

I pray you take this to heart all of you. Share with those unmarried.

Thats all for now

-J